Hey, I’m



Kink Personality / BDSM Consultant

About Me

The Real Kinky Deal: a highly experienced BDSM teacher and player, based out of New York.  


Over the last twenty years, I've taught BDSM and sex education classes both privately professionally,  including Smith College, Black Rose, TES Fest, Lesbian Sex Mafia, IMSL, and  F.I.S.T.  In addition, I have for the past eight years also been a coordinator for the International Ms Leather conference, the world’s largest organization for leather women and their allies. I've run and produced ongoing BDSM events like Spanktuary, Trash, and Shut Up and Fuck, among others.


I built and currently maintain a dungeon in Brooklyn where I host Submit, New York's only sex and play party for the women and trans communities, and also co-produce SPAM, a monthly sex party for Brooklyn's queer community.